Sunday, September 25, 2005

The Courier

Well, the apology to the care home is on the front page of this weeks Courier and there's a two page article on the treatment of dementia inside featuring the home. It's a good article and there's piccies of the garden furniture they bought with the money I gave them and the inside of one of the three OT huts that they bought too. One of the huts has a corner shop theme, the other a beach theme and there's still one to be put up.


It's also the only home in the area that deals with this kind of severe dementia and is important to the area as it gives people here the chance to be near their relatives and not to have to send them out of the area. The care there is very good and they, as was stated by relatives in the article, make a great deal of difference to the clients lives. When they've come from other places relatives have noticed the change for the better once the residents have settled in. People who previously were agitated and withdrawn can manage to relax enough to smile and speak again.

When the new owner took over a few years ago he had a task on his hands to get the home up and running. I don't think that it's any secret in the area that before he took it over three or so years ago it wasn't recommended. He quickly worked wonders and continues to do so with the help of the brilliant manager there and the caring staff.

I was sad that my relative eventually had to go there. I'd come up here to look after her while recovering myself. But, I'n glad she went there because she still had personal freedom as in far as it was possible and care and encouragement.

The guy who runs it employs more staff than he's legally obliged to as well.

I donated the money to them as a thankyou because I knew the difference it made for my relative to have the freedom they allowed her. It was hard for her being there as freedom was a big thing with her but she was so ill there was no choice, so many illnesses, Lewy bodies dementia just being one of them and in the end she had to have round the clock medical and supervised care. The last eighteen months of her life were very difficult indeed. It's only now looking back that I can sit down and think about just how dreadful it was for her. Before it was just trying to do what you could to allieviate some of the fear and to make the quality of her life as good as it could be in the circumstances. She died very peacefully in her sleep but those eighteen months and particularly the last twelve or so where very difficult and distressing indeed. She just had a number of illness that were appalling. I was here to support her and help her as much as I could.