Sigh ....
In the end I decided not to contact the family .. I know they'll realize why .. and will understand and will also realise how sad I feel .. and they'll be very pleased that I was in their lives for a little while .. at a distance :: so they knew a bit about my life and beliefs. Because it will help now.
I think, at the moment, though it's best to let them grieve as a family rather than having mr wandering into their lives.
I know there's a lot of strength there because they didn't have her back as a friend. I only got to now about them through her but she played so many games .. and I really don't know if all of it is due to the booze .. she is very manipulative and controlling too really and I really don't know if that is all down to the alcohol.
She wasn't really helping anyone .. infact she was taking the piss out of his situation ..the problem she was meant to be supporting him through .. not the tragedy she came back to get the details about .. his partner had left him for someone she met on line .. so while she was supposedly supporting him through this she suddenly decided to start flirting with some random guy she met on line where he could read it .. she has a partner too .. while she was supposedly helping him get over his partner who had started off flirting with then leaving him for someone she met on line.
Game playing par excellence .. huh.
Something to watch out for!!! Sigh. First time I've seen soeone do that. Pretend to be helping someone while taking the piss by copying (to a lesser degree) what the person who hurt him did where he could find out.
I'm still not sure how much was down to the booze and how much was her own personality. Her memory was , when she was really pissed, very bad.
If he'd had her back in hislife I would have stayed away but I really think that I've left it too long now in the circumstances. Maybe, later on, if that's how it turns out we'll be friends but for now I think it's just best to leave the family to cope with this the best they can without having to wonder, her being his last friend, how good a friend I'd be.
Later on maybe .. but, not quite now. They do know that I've been concerned.. though seemingly unavailable.
It's been a very difficult sitution.
Now, I'm off to bed,
Zzzzzz
Maybe I'll've changed my mind while I'm asleep.
It's so difficult.
I think, at the moment, though it's best to let them grieve as a family rather than having mr wandering into their lives.
I know there's a lot of strength there because they didn't have her back as a friend. I only got to now about them through her but she played so many games .. and I really don't know if all of it is due to the booze .. she is very manipulative and controlling too really and I really don't know if that is all down to the alcohol.
She wasn't really helping anyone .. infact she was taking the piss out of his situation ..the problem she was meant to be supporting him through .. not the tragedy she came back to get the details about .. his partner had left him for someone she met on line .. so while she was supposedly supporting him through this she suddenly decided to start flirting with some random guy she met on line where he could read it .. she has a partner too .. while she was supposedly helping him get over his partner who had started off flirting with then leaving him for someone she met on line.
Game playing par excellence .. huh.
Something to watch out for!!! Sigh. First time I've seen soeone do that. Pretend to be helping someone while taking the piss by copying (to a lesser degree) what the person who hurt him did where he could find out.
I'm still not sure how much was down to the booze and how much was her own personality. Her memory was , when she was really pissed, very bad.
If he'd had her back in hislife I would have stayed away but I really think that I've left it too long now in the circumstances. Maybe, later on, if that's how it turns out we'll be friends but for now I think it's just best to leave the family to cope with this the best they can without having to wonder, her being his last friend, how good a friend I'd be.
Later on maybe .. but, not quite now. They do know that I've been concerned.. though seemingly unavailable.
It's been a very difficult sitution.
Now, I'm off to bed,
Zzzzzz
Maybe I'll've changed my mind while I'm asleep.
It's so difficult.
posted by Zeb at 4:44 PM
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