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I had a good night's sleep last night .. first for a long time really. Late to bed .. slept through .. and woke up around eight hours later.

Still thinking about the same situation. I think it's best to leave things as they are. I'm just an acquaintance of his really .. because I didn't really follow up getting to know the family because I was feeling so rough then.

I know so much .. because she told me .. though he let people on the site know what had happened. I can't really get involved because of all I know about her too .. because I was the only person she really confided in. I haven't told anyone .. and what I've said here she'd done where people could see it.

I'm not sure how much he knows about her "flirting" .. but he carried on after she'd been out there with it .. but something happened on the site that night she left that I saw because I'd pottered over to a page of hers on one of my late night/early morning stints. It's vanished when I got up later on.

It must've been to get a reaction and I guess it did .. cause both she and what was there had left.

I dunno .. as I said before my brother thinks she might have some kind of early onset wet brain.It's difficult to know what's going on .. but I guess it would become more apparent when she is really drunk .. cause sometimes she seemed totally with it. It was just in the last few weeks that things got really strange. I mean, you don't expect someone to be totally with it all the time .. illness, tiredness, stress etc .. they all play a part. It's possible with the drinking and a old and tiredness .. she didn't seem to sleep much sometimes .. that things could seem really bad.

But .. it must be difficult to forget which of your two kids is banned from the computer and which is on our site!!!!!

She'd had a really difficult life ... very abusive relationship .. which is why I couldn't understand why she was openly jeapodising this one. Though as I said before about it .. you never know what goes on behind closed doors .. and something had made me think that all wasn't quite that rosy .. I got the feeling that she wasn't happy. I wondered if she thought she might just be a kind of token girlfriend .. as I said before she's very beautiful .. but she did add to that a bit herself. But, at the same time, I got the feeling it upset her.

Some of me friends .. hiya .. had been following what was put up for people to see .. and think much the same.

It was difficult to know what to do .. because her health is in such a precarious state. I was glad really when she went .. I'd been muttering about it all for a few weeks .. had spoken to her about what was going on. But, through the booze, she just thought it was one big joke.

When we first met .. apart from one hiccup that we got over .. she seemed really nice. Then a few months down the line things really changed. Msybe it is some kind of early onset wet brain. My brother say she's seen someone in their late twenties with it .. though that must be very rare. He says that once there is that kind of organic damage it can't be repaired .. I guess it's very early in her case though .. if that is what it is .. and she could be so much better if she stopped drinking.

I think that it's best to just let her solve this with her family .. otherwise it rather seems as if you're supporting her drinking and actions. I hadn't known her for that long .. she was so funny and nice when we first met. I half wish she could read this it might just make her think. Other people thought she was too. As I said there was one hiccup .. but she was really thoughtful, had a lot of insight and was so sorry and tried so hard to put it right .. and was so scared that I would go because of it.

Then suddenly things took a sharp turn downhill.

The last couple of months were really strange and I really wanted her to go but wouldn't do anything cause of the problems she had .. asked her to go to her doctor. The flirting etc was right at the end. Last couple of weeks.

I know things haven't changed because of something she said when she arrived back.

I would really like to go and say to the guy how sorry I am about what's happened. It's a tragedy .. not the first he's had to cope with in life. If I'd been a bit more active on line then we'd've got to know each other better. I know that he'll know that I do feel that way though and will be pleased that he got to know about my life before this happened .. but, I don't feel that I can go back into his life now.

Maybe I felt guilty too cause I wanted to know more about it too and that was another reason that I didn't get back in touch. I saw that she'd returned after leaving me very ill and him who she was supporting after his wife had run off with this bloke she'd met on line saying how bad she felt .. then said something that rather contradicted that to someone else later on.

I also thought that if she was back and the family were talking to her that it'd be better for me not to say anything cause I didn't want to get involved again by then. Didn't find out for a while that they felt the same as me.

So .. really I have to leave it now .. though nowing that they'll know a lot about how I feel. At least I now that I'll have helped in some ways.